Distractions Caused by Personal Crises
None of us works in a vacuum. The success of our business is commensurate with our enthusiasm, and our enthusiasm is affected by our personal lives. Dr. Dennis of Middletown, Connecticut, found comfort by focusing his complete concentration on his business while going through the greatest tragedy of his life. Dennis’s story puts many other crises in perspective.
“On February 28, 1992, at approximately 10:30 P.M. , I was involved in a car accident that changed my life forever. Before this tragedy, I was a successful person, or so I thought. I excelled in everything I ever did in life. I was a perfectionist who was able to do many things and do them all well. But the problem was deep down, I was unhappy. I wasn’t passionate about anything in my life. This instability led to my divorce, a drinking problem, and finally the accident that was the turning point in my life.
“I had been drinking that night, like I had on numerous other occasions in my life. That’s how I disconnected from reality. On this particular night, I ran a red light and broadsided a car with two passengers. The passenger was not hurt, but the driver Renford, was killed.
“From that moment on, my life activities consisted of being sued, appearing in court, going bankrupt, trying to run my medical practice with my name in the headlines, facing a possible ten years in jail, and trying to sustain a marriage to my new wife, Bonnie, the most supportive person in the world. On the inside, I felt guilt, shame, sorrow, fear, and despair, all mixed together. I wished I had been the one who died. This was a tragedy of immeasurable proportions and it was buried inside of me, eating me up.
“I was convinced of misconduct with a motor vehicle and sentenced after thirty days, with three years probation. I was put on random urine tests for two years, alcohol counseling, and AA meetings. My license was put on probation for two years. I went bankrupt and had to close my office. I did 3,000 hours of community service. But nothing, I felt, could make up for the life I had taken.
